Things You Didn't Know About Using Anal Beads
"Article reposted from COSMOPOLITAN"
Anal beads are also a totally separate animal than butt plugs, although sometimes people confuse the two. An easy way to remember this is to just keep in mind that anal beads tend to be longer, while plugs are, like their name, shorter and y'know, plug-like. With butt plugs, the pleasure is from the feeling of fullness or heft and weight of the toy, while much of the sensation associated with anal beads is actually in the removal. Sometimes each bead gradually increases in size going up the string, and sometimes the beads are all the same size. If you’re curious about the best non-accessory of the butt play world, read on:
1. Sounds obvious, but only use things as anal beads that are specifically meant to be used as anal beads.
Unlike the vagina, things can get lost in your butt. Most anal beads come with a flared handle or loop for easy removal. Not to mention, you really only wanna be using body-safe materials anyways. Flared bases and or loops for removal are super important, notes Jaycee Chester, owner of Overkink.com, as these lessen your odds of something getting stuck. What you don’t want is a trip to the emergency room — especially nowadays.
2. When shopping for anal beads, know that you don’t have to use the entirety of the toy.
You don’t have to use the whole thing, says Chester. If you’re shopping for a set of anal beads but are turned off that they’re way longer than you feel comfy for, remember, there are no rules saying you have to stuff the entirety of the toy in your bum. You can always just use the first one or two beads if that’s more your speed.
3. If you’re going to use anal beads for the vagina, make sure to get a dedicated set for vaginal use only.
The sensation of removal from the vagina can also feel pleasurable to vulva-havers, but you should never mix and match beads for the butt with beads you use in the vagina for bacterial reasons. If you’re going to use beads in the vagina, just buy a separate set dedicated to vagina play, says Katherin Winnick, sex coach. Seriously, anal beads are not super expensive and the cost of a trip to your doctor’s office is gonna be way more.
4. Experiment with different sensations — besides insertion and removal.
A good foreplay tip is to rub the beads against you or your partner’s perineum (the area between genitals and anus) before insertion, says Winnick. Gently rubbing and massaging with the beads here can help you or a partner get used to the sensation.
You can also experiment with different kinds of anal beads. The materials used will impact the sensation as well. Glass anal beads offer more rigidity and are temperature-sensi, meaning they can heat up with your body. Silicone anal beads can have more “give” to them and offer more flexibility than glass or steel anal beads. And of course, you can always add vibration to the mix. “Yes, a basic anal bead is great, but I didn’t know joy until I found a vibrating anal bead,” adds Chester.
5. Time the removal to sync up with an orgasm for maximum oomph.
Since the removal of anal beads is what makes them so pleasurable, try to time the removal of the beads to sync up with you or your partner’s orgasm. At the first signs of orgasm, start pulling the beads out one-by-one with a deliberate, consistent, and not-too-slow motion, says Winnick. Doing so will help to heighten the sensation of muscle contraction with a climax.
6. Make sure the lube you’re using is compatible with whatever anal beads you’re using.
While silicone lube is usually better for butt stuff than water-based lubes, you can’t use silicone lubes with silicone anal beads (which is what the majority of anal beads are made of), as it can degrade the material. Therefore, it might help to work backwards and choose an anal bead that works with silicone lubes (like one that’s made of glass or steel for example). Chester says she normally recommends using an anal bead that’s safe to use with silicone-based lubes as well. Since you’ll need a lot of lube (your anus doesn’t self-lubricate), silicone lubes that are thicker and don’t dry out as quickly as water-based lubes are worth it.
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7. Try them in the shower.
Certified sex coach, explains that this is often a good way to experiment with anal beads if you’re hesitant about any potential mess. Since water ≠ lube, make sure you use a good silicone lube. If the anal beads you’re using are also silicone, you’ll want to use a condom over them as silicone on silicone is a bad idea. Or, you can use a glass or steel toy — two materials that also allow for temperature play opportunities too.
8. Don’t forget to sanitize your lube container afterwards!
If you grab for more lube while you’ve already used your hands for anal play, you really want to sanitize and clean the actual container and packaging afterwards too. Harris also suggests investing in an automatic lube dispenser, or filling a disposable dixie cup with the lube you’ll need for each session ahead of time, and then disposing of it afterwards.